Experiencing love is beautiful, and romantic relationships could be full of roses. However, its end often leaves a broken soul who is left to pick up the pieces of who they once were.
More often than not, individuals seek to fill the emotional void which was left in them after a breakup with their partners. At that moment, the person who listens to their problems, gives warm hugs, offers a shoulder to cry on, and says nice things to cheer them up, ends up being the perfect candidate for a rebound relationship.
But what is a rebound relationship and how can you tell if your relationship is a rebound relationship?
THE MEANING OF A REBOUND RELATIONSHIP
Rebound relationships are defined as quick romantic relationships a person seeks as a resolve, following the end of emotionally investing relationship. Intentionally or not, a large percentage of individuals seem to find themselves in relationships like this.
Rebound relationships embody a form of coping response to the hurt from previous relationships. Anger and sadness are common feelings associated with individuals who find themselves in need of rebound relationships.
These feelings are usually gravitated towards past lovers and so are likely to be transferred towards partners in new relationships
HOW TO KNOW IT’S A REBOUND RELATIONSHIP
Rebound relationships could be tricky, and as such difficult to detect, especially when you are caught up in intense emotions and unable to reason objectively. However, some signs could give you an idea of what could be considered a rebound relationship or that you are possibly someone’s rebound girl or guy.
No single sign is sufficient enough as definitive evidence; therefore, it is not advisable to make your assumption based on these alone as they could possibly mean other things.
1. THE NEW RELATIONSHIP SEEMS TO BE FAST TRACKED.
It is exciting when partners are bold enough to take necessary steps in their relationships, especially when the decision is made by both partners, but in rebound relationships, the partner on the rebound could be trying to catch up on where they left in their previous relationship.
Rebound partners are often likely to exponentially fast track current relationships. You may find that you both are doing things that couples who have been in relationships for years do a few weeks into your new relationship especially when you started dating immediately after a breakup, this may be considered a rebound relationship.
2. IT’S ALL ABOUT SEX
A hint that could tip of a rebound relationship is that far greater time is spent having sex.
Couples in romantic relationships generally have a hard time keeping their hands off each other early on, but in rebound relationships, more time is spent on sex at the expense of communication and spending time trying to know each other.
Also, the partner on the rebound may seem to be unreachable through texts and calls, but somehow finds a way to show up when it comes to sex.
3. AVOIDING FUTURE PLANS OR KEEPING SECRETS!
If your newly found partner constantly evades making future plans or discussing what life you may have together, chances are they aren’t in it for the long run, and it may be time for you to move on to a long-lasting relationship.
Also, partners on the rebound are often still emotionally invested in their previous relationship, and hence, avoid talking about it. Evasiveness is a common trait of the rebounding partner
4. PARTNERS BEING CLINGY OR SHOW OFFS
People on rebound may appear to be too clingy, and this might be due to an unconscious need to compensate for the void that has been left by the previous partner. They may become quite dependent on new partners and may avoid leaving their partners alone for long periods of time.
Partners who are on rebound may, in fact, show off new partners in a way that seems totally unreasonable or unnecessary. Some may go as far as showing you off to their ex as a method or means of overcompensation.
5. THE “HOT AND COLD” PARTNER
If after spending a lot of time with a new partner, the other partner still can’t seem to tell what they are feeling or would like to do, there is a high chance they aren’t in it completely, but still stuck with their exes, it may also be considered as a rebound relationship.
A rebound partner could be all-loving one moment and in the next moment distant.
6. SUBSTANCE ABUSE
If you find your partner drinking excessively, or abusing drugs in your newly found “exponential relationship”, you may need to confirm if your partner is on a rebound. Rebound partners tend to use substances to numb away hurtful feelings from previous relationships.
7. SEEKING FOR SIMILARITIES/DIFFERENCES IN NEW PARTNERS
Individuals on rebound tend to consciously or subconsciously look for people with qualities similar to that of their exes, and hence relationships where people seek for partners with similar personalities as their exes may be considered a rebound.
Some others who had been hurt by the previous relationship may look for qualities in partners that are different from that of their previous partner.
8. A CHANGE IN PERSONALITY
Sometimes, a rebound relationship may not be enough to numb the emotional hurt and disappointment of a previous relationship, and hence, rebound partners often search for other means to make themselves feel better.
This might involve a change in personality like an introvert becoming extroverted, or may involve doing new things like partying, etc. All these serve as a distraction to keep their minds off the hurt that they may be going through.
IS A REBOUND RELATIONSHIP DIFFERENT FROM TRUE LOVE?
There’s no simple answer to this question. Sometimes, rebounds could lead to meaningful relationships, and some other times they could lead to disappointments. Whenever you consider rebounding on someone else, remember that everyone wants a real, true and genuine relationship. People do not like being strung along, and your need to fill your emotional void may end up hurting another in more ways than you can imagine.
CAN A REBOUND RELATIONSHIP WORK OUT
Surprisingly, some experts do recommend rebound relationships. Reports have shown that the outcome of a rebound relationship could at times be unpredictable, as the rebound may either give an opportunity for true feelings to develop, or even make way for a long-lasting friendship.
Finally, individuals are different and have different needs, hence, it is important to identify what you want, and what works for you and make the best decision while considering the interest of your partner.